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Communicate with Inspirational Stories: Daytona 500 Surprise Win

Tuesday, February 22nd, 2011

As a speech coach, I talk to my clients about the value of incorporating stories and real life examples into their presentations.  I encourage them to use the 3N method for collecting those stories:  NOTICE, NOTE and NARRATE. 

NOTICE – Keep your eyes and ears open for stories and everyday experiences that spark your interest and teach you something.

NOTE – write them down in a journal  - capture them somewhere so that you can develop and fine-tune them.  Look for how the story might be applied to the world of work.  Is there a business lesson imbedded in the story.  Can it help you illustrate a point you are trying to make?

NARRATE - Tell the stories, practice delivering them out loud and see how you can continue to hone.

Here is a practice opportunity:  

On Saturday, February 19, 2011 NASCAR newcomer Trevor Bayne won the 53rd Daytona 500 in double overtime.  I am not a racing fan nor do I follow it but when I heard this story I wanted to know more.  Here are some self-selected highlights:

  • Trevor just turned 20
  • Trevor has only been able to drive legally for 4 years
  • Trevor became the race’s youngest winner
  • This was only Trevor’s second NASCAR Sprint Cup Series race
  • The race experienced a 14 car crash (that included the race’s most experienced drivers) and a record number of lead changes and caution periods
  • Team Owner – Wood Brother’s first win since 1979
  • Preparing for the race he asked himself, "What do I need to do to not let the mountains get too high, and just stay focused?"
  • Trevor donated part of of his winnings to an orphanage in Mexico.
  • On this race day NASCAR marked the 10th anniversary of the death of its fallen hero, Dale Earnhardt, and it appears that a totally unexpected new hero emerged.
  • Bayne has exhibited great humility and gratitude and has conducted himself in a down-to-earth manner.
  • Bayne said. "One thing I haven’t really talked about is keeping our expectations realistic here.We won this race and that sets the bar high, but if we would have finished 15th we would have been happy."

These are a few elements I jotted down after googling Bayne and the race story.  The next step in the process is to begin pondering what the real-world lessons might be unearthed through this story. 

To discover them, consider asking questions like:

  1. Was inexperience an asset?
  2. How can experience get in the way of success?
  3. What discoveries where made by the drivers – were there lessons learned?
  4. What can be learned from the way this unexpected hero conducted himself before and after the win?
  5. Despite a lack of wins, what does this story say about the tenacity of the team owners who pursued yet another opportunity to race with a beginner?

There are likely many elements of the story that can be mined and more points that can be made.  Practice incorporating story into your business presentation with this news story – see what you can develop.  Create an opportunity in the next 48 hours to use it.

NOTICE, NOTE and NARRATE – This process will help make your presentations memorable.

 











LAS VEGAS — It was one of those storybook, happily-ever-after endings, seen often in romantic comedies and dime-store novels. Trevor Bayne – a household name perhaps only in his hometown of Knoxville, Tenn. – led the last two laps to win the 2011 Daytona 500 the day after celebrating his 20th birthday to become the youngest victor of what’s often referred to as The Great American Race. Not only is he the race’s youngest victor, he also is the only driver to win in his first try. He gave the legendary Wood Brothers racing team – NASCAR’s oldest team – its first Daytona 500 victory since 1976. Throw in the fact that the car was painted to resemble David Pearson’s ’76 500 winner (which also won involved in one of those Hollywood-style finishes) and it has all the makings of a tinseltown blockbuster.

 

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Following up on Customer Feedback

Tuesday, February 15th, 2011

I wonder what has happened to all the customer feedback surveys I have filled out in my time on the planet?

I believe in providing feedback to companies and services I do business with.  So, as a customer, when I’ve been asked for feedback – whether over the phone, online or through a mailed survey – I do my best to take the time to respond.  I am one of those people who will also write a letter if deserved.  It has been my way of giving back – as in, feedback is a gift.  I believe in the value and importance of a great customer experience – and I recognize that it is a two-way street.  To get it, you have to give.

What I’ve experienced, however,  is that 95% of the time, I never hear a single word about my feedback.  What do I expect?  In my opinion there are a number of things businesses can do to let you know they appreciate your time and comments.  Among them are:

  • A thank you and a word about how your feedback will be used.
  • A follow-up call that might address specifics you wrote about (I am one of those people who provides substantial detail).
  • An e-mail stating what changes in policy or procedure are occurring due to customer comments.
  • A gesture or gift (voucher for a free "something")
  • An invitation to participate on a customer board

Instead, what is more common are gestures that communicate filling out a survey will enter you into a contest where you might be a winner or even more common – no incentive or follow-up at all.  As a result, I’ve lost that fire-in-the-belly to provide customer feedback.

I don’t mean to suggest here that my customer feedback is something that should cause everyone at corporate headquarters to drop what they are doing and pick up the phone and call me.  I am suggesting, however, that if you are going to ask for people’s time and commentary you need to respond to it because if you don’t you are actually doing your business more harm than good.  Nothing is worse than asking for someone’s opinion and then dropping it into oblivion.

As someone who consults businesses on employee and customer engagement, my advice for today is don’t ask if you aren’t going to tell your customer what you are doing with what they’ve given you.  The same is true, of course, with employees. Don’t survey employees and ask for their opinion and then let it fade away – they will also lose interest in participating in the future as the message you are sending is – your opinion does NOT count.

Improving your customer’s experience is essential.  Listening to their opinion on what is working and what’s not is imperative. Following up on their feedback is a MUST.

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Hoop Dreams – Revisiting the essence of teamwork, one basket at at time

Thursday, November 18th, 2010

I hadn’t spoken to Loretta in what felt like ten years. I hadn’t played basketball with her…well let’s just say, in a very, very long time. So, when she called out of the blue and asked me to join a new women’s basketball league at a local park district in Chicago, I responded with a stammering “ok” that likely communicated equal amounts of excitement and terror.

 
On that first Wednesday night, my future teammates filed in, and we gently probed to find out if the other was playing for the local sports bar, Gio’s, who was sponsoring our team. Our team is called Gio’s Gals. We are women who range in age from our 20’s to our 50’s. We are a diverse group of professionals pursuing careers that range from forensics, restaurant management, executive consulting, sales to nursing. Some of us are moms and some of us are not. All of us have played the game at some time or another (mostly over 20 years ago!) and thought it would be fun to jump back in, get some exercise, meet new people and feel the competitive juices flowing again in our veins. We, of course, underestimated how sore, bruised and battered we would be.
 
We are rusty, but committed. We are older, but wiser. We are learning, growing and getting better with each game we play.
 
 
 
Because of the time constraints and responsibilities that come with being grown ups, we need to show up for games with no practice in between. We are playing women younger and more experienced. Not the best formula for a winning season yet it has afforded us all an opportunity to get back in touch with the athlete in us, challenge ourselves physically and be reminded of the lessons that accompany any well functioning team.
 
On Wednesday nights, whether before or after the games, my teammates – Katie, Loretta, Maggie, Misti, Bri, Michelle, Nikki, Jen, Cinnamon, Elizabeth and I – reflect on the game and life in general. I think we are all reminded of what we gained by playing on sports team in our youth. There were lessons then and we are reminded of them again. Here is the mid-season report:
 
·      Everyone has their strengths, everyone has a role
o   Learn to appreciate the talents each person contributes to the overall well-being and effectiveness of the team.
 
·      Nothing trumps how great it feels to be cheered on by your teammates
o   There is nothing so energizing and motivating as a high five from a teammate after a good pass or shot made – or simply words of encouragement after an effort made.
 
·      Challenging and learning from each other is key to growth
o   When you create a safe supportive team environment there is ease around direct feedback and suggestions as we all have the same goal.
 
·      Learning to accept defeat and still come back fighting
o   The final score is direct and unflinching. You either won or lost. Discovering how to graciously acknowledge a win is one thing…managing the “agony of defeat” is another. The ability to do that well comes from the collective will of the group to leapfrog over the defeat and immediately start focusing on how to improve for the next game. Katie reflected, “I like to win but what matters to me more today is the overall improvement of the team, rather than the individual win.”
 
·      Pass and Shoot – finding the balance
o   Discovering the balance between taking the lead and supporting is essential for any team. Recognizing the balance between strategic and generous passing and having the confidence and will to take the shot when you are open is crucial to success. As Misti shared, “with age comes the wisdom to play seeing the big picture offensively and knowing what matters is to get the ball in the hands of the most well positioned player.”
 
·      Play Hard, Have Fun…remember it’s a game
o   There is nothing so gratifying as giving the game all you’ve got and having fun doing it. We’ve found we need to remind each other when we are frustrated and down to find the joy even in that valley. After a recent loss, two of my teammates approached members of the opposing team who had been particularly aggressive on the court. Within minutes they were laughing together and had swapped stories. The tension lifted and new possibilities were presented. The found similarities rather than differences.
 
These lessons hold themes that apply not only to sports but to work and family as well. I am grateful to have the chance to revisit these lessons so vividly on the court with Gio’s Gals. During this season when we give thanks and appreciation – I say, “Thanks Team.”

 

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Reach your goals and live the lessons

Saturday, October 30th, 2010

Sustaining the effort is key to reaching your goals.  My newsletter this month features many ideas on how to "live the lessons" to ensure success both personally and professionally….Take a look: http://tinyurl.com/2dlllcb

 

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Working with the Waves that come your Way…

Saturday, August 28th, 2010

Earlier this month on vacation, I found myself in Huntington Beach, CA. (better known in some circles as "Surf City").  My visit just happened to coincide with the finals of the U.S. Open Surfing championships.  Curious too see what this kind of sporting event would be like, my brother, who I was visiting, took me out onto the Huntington Beach Pier in time to watch the men’s final event. It had come down to the two top surfers – hometown native, Brett Simpson and South African, Jordy Smith – the number one ranked surfer in the world.

The two highly respected surfers paddled out to see what waves they might catch – as thousands of fans and on-lookers watched from the beach and the pier.  The only problem – no waves.  The ocean offered nothing – or at best very little.  

Smith and Simpson spent the first 15 minutes of their 35 minute heat waiting for something to ride.

I found myself pondering this dilemma and drawing the obvious parallels between these two surfer’s dilemma and what we all face in our everyday lives – waiting and hoping for the right wave.

As the heat wore on, Simpson made his move with whatever decent wave came his way.  From my novice eye, I was amazed at what he was able to do with waves that appeared tiny and impossible to leverage.  Smith waited and waited – finally grabbing, too late in the game, whatever he could and was not able to execute.  Simpson’s heat total of 13.97 our of 20 topped Smith’s score of 8.33 making him the first back-to-back U.S. Open winner since 1985-1986.

The hometown hero edged out the legend and as one commentator said, "He turned garbage into gold – he was smart, not lucky."

This experience has stayed with me as a great reminder that when we are "lucky" enough to get the right waves, things smoothly and seamlessly go our way.  But more often, we have to do the very best we can with the opportunities that come our way – and those opportunities may be hard to see, challenging to surface and require an extraordinary amount of persistence and commitment but in the end, the victory is somehow sweeter.

Work with the waves that come your way.

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What Wooden’s words communicate

Monday, July 26th, 2010

Former UCLA Basketball Coach John Wooden died at age 99 on June 4, 2010.  His legacy as a coach will live on and even in retirement – through speeches and books – he translated the lessons he shared with his championship teams to business professionals and anyone who wanted to discover the champion within themselves.  

To honor the man and create an opportunity to remind each of us what he said, I share a few of the quotes that always struck a chord with me:

"The main ingredient of stardom is the rest of the team."

"If you don’t have time to do it right, when will you have time to do it over?"

"A coach is someone who can give correction without causing resentment."

"Things turn out best for the people who make the best of the way things turn out."

"If you are not making mistakes, you aren’t doing anything.  I’m positive that a doer makes mistakes."

"Success comes from knowing that you did your best to become the best you are capable of becoming."

"Success is never final, failure is never fatal.  It is courage that counts."

The list of memorable quotes could go on for much longer but I will stop here.  His track record tells us that he knows a thing or two about motivation, success and the meaning of true teamwork.  When his coaching career ended in 1975 his Bruins’ had won their 10th NCAA championship in 12 seasons – a record that will almost certainly never be matched.  Pull out one of these maxims the next time you have an opportunity to coach and inspire.

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Go Undercover for the Customer

Thursday, April 15th, 2010

Many of you have seen the popular new CBS series titled, Undercover Boss.  Each episode follows a senior executive of a major corporation who is working incognito as a new entry-level hire for one week.  Through the experience they discover how the company really works.  The show is well done and sends out an important message to leaders:  You need to experience your company through the lens of the employee to truly understand what is working and what’s not.

Without fail, the undercover CXO identifies corporate policies that unfairly impact employees, costly inefficiencies and unsung heroes.  The leader also discovers how far removed he is from what happens day to day in the business.

I applaud the show’s intention and I want to suggest to the producers the next iteration for this show:  “In the Customer’s Shoes.”  Viewing a business from the employee’s perspective is a crucial first step but would be incomplete without viewing the business from the customer’s perspective as well.  I started to think about this more as I viewed Sunday’s finale featuring 1 800 Flowers President and COO, Chris McCann.  I applaud Mr. McCann’s efforts to better understand his employee’s experience.  It also prompted me to recall an experience I had with 1 800 Flowers a couple of years ago that still makes my blood boil to think about it.  I have not used them since.  Following is an abbreviated version of the letter I wrote to the Head of Customer Service,  Julia Kauffman.

 Dear Ms. Kauffman,

I am writing to share a very disappointing customer experience I had recently with your company.  I contacted 1 800 Flowers on Monday, October 15th to order a bouquet of flowers to be sent to my mother on her 84th birthday on October 19.  I began by going to your website and had to spend approximately 30 minutes trying to order a bouquet online but every time I attempted to pay for it my credit card was rejected.  Frustrated, I went ahead and called the 1 800 number.

This time I reached a sales rep who at best I would describe as incompetent.  I found myself repeating the same information over and over to her (her getting it wrong each time and needing to start again). I requested that the flowers be delivered on the 19th as we wanted them there for a party that would be taking place for my mother.  The rep said she could deliver them on Thursday or Saturday but not Friday.  When I asked why she simply said that was what her computer was saying to her.  She said she’d “try” to get them there on Friday.  I said, if not, Thursday would have to do.  After another 30 minutes, the transaction and order was complete.


The flowers did not arrive on Thursday, Friday or Saturday.  Despite the confirmation I received via e-mail.


When the flowers had not arrived by late Friday afternoon I called 1 800 Flowers to share my disappointment and ask for a refund.  I was told that the best they could do was credit back 20% to my account.  She shared that the only way to get a full refund was to have my mother send the flowers back on Monday.  This, of course, was not only insulting but laughable – I could just imagine my 84 year old mom packing up flowers…  As a last resort, the rep gave me your name and suggested I write a letter. 

Ms. Kaufmann, as you can imagine, this is not about the money – it is about the principle.  Businesses make promises to their customers and trust is built when those promises are delivered.  I have to assume that 1 800 Flowers’ promise is that you can order flowers easily, quickly and can feel confident that they will be delivered on time and be of quality.  Do I have that right?  My flowers were not easy to order and they were not delivered on time – the quality is yet to be determined…

 

The end of the story is that I did not receive a refund or credit and the flowers finally arrived 5 days late.  I would’ve loved Mr. McCann to witness my experience!

At the conclusion of Undercover Boss, the CXO brings together a large group of managers to share what he/she has learned.  It is easy to see what this endeavor communicates to the employees:

·      Our CEO “gets it”

·      Our CEO cares

·      Our CEO walked a mile in our shoes

·      Our CEO is courageous

For a boss to go undercover it does communicate caring, courage and commitment.  Taking it one step further, I encourage every leader to go undercover and experience what the customer experiences.  Without the benefit of a reality television show, I can make a few suggestions:

·      Work a day in your company’s call center and hear the issues customers have

·      Work on the front line in a customer-facing position

·      Hold a customer town hall and learn directly about what’s working and what’s not

·      Track a customer’s experience from start to finish and see where it breaks down

·      Read the letters dissatisfied customers write 

Follow-up on these activities with your customers through e-mail, blog postings or letters about what you discovered and what you are doing about it.  Just like the employee’s responses in Undercover Boss, your customers will recognize you “get it”, you care, and you are willing to walk a mile in their shoes – and that takes courage.

Leaders out there – get both sides of the picture.  Experience what your employees AND customers experience.  Communicating with your customers in this way will go a long way in building life-long relationships and loyalty.

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Seven Communication Practices for Personal Success in 2010

Tuesday, March 16th, 2010

Greetings Colleagues, Clients and Community Members,

The arrival of Spring signals an opportunity to refresh skills and try
on new techniques to improve your personal communication.
In a down economy it becomes more important than ever to be at
your best, get noticed and be remembered.  In this edition of my
newsletter I will focus on elements of your personal 
communication that will help you accomplish those goals. I’ll 
review best practices that will get you noticed and remembered
positively after a networking event, job interview or even within 
the environment where you currently work. 

Spring forward, try a few new techniques and see what 
results.  Good luck!

Mari Pat Varga

For a copy of our Spring Newsletter, visit:   http://tinyurl.com/ygcrdkz

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Cardio Kick Boxing or Corporate Interview: Make first impressions count

Tuesday, February 23rd, 2010

 

by MARI PAT VARGA on FEBRUARY 23, 2010[EDIT]

On Saturday I went to take a cardio kick-boxing class I attend on a regular basis.  It is normally taught by an energetic and very fit young woman named, Anne. As a bunch of us were mingling and waiting for the class to begin, a rather disheveled man came in to the studio space and appeared to be getting organized to teach the class.  He looked as if he had just rolled out of bed, was in need of a shave and could have benefitted from running a comb through his long, stringy hair that seemed be be flying in many different directions.  He wore what appeared to be sweat pants and a t-shirt left over from the ’80’s and capped off the outfit by tying a tattered red bandana across his forehead.  His t-shirt, likely purchased when he was 20 pounds lighter, revealed a protruding belly.  He explained that he was the substitute instructor.

The reactions from the people in the class varied.  There were several who rolled their eyes in disbelief and left the room clearly deciding this was not the instructor for them.  Some just looked shocked and others, like myself, held back a smile convinced that the “candid camera” folks would jump out any minute and say, “surprise!”  It would have been good fodder for a Saturday Night Live skit.

And, here’s the kicker…it was a good class and he was a good instructor.  After those of us who remained got past the shock of his appearance, we committed to getting what we had come for – a good workout – and he delivered.

So, what is the moral of this story?  I am not sure other than to say – first impressions do matter.  This instructor’s haphazard appearance turned some people off and they left – not even giving him a chance – while the rest hung in there but likely driven more by our own desire to exercise rather than necessarily putting their confidence in him.

None of us want to judge people prematurely.  We all wish we had multiple opportunities to make a first impression but experience tells us we often don’t.  This funny fellow at my gym may seem an extreme case but in my years as a hiring manager I saw examples of this time and again – well meaning people who made the wrong calls about what they wore, how they behaved and what they said.  Everything speaks.  Everything tells a story.

In this tough and competitive job market do everything you can to communicate your competence and confidence – don’t leave room for interpretation.

 

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Can smiles predict marriage success?

Thursday, February 4th, 2010

I loved Clara’s thought-provoking article about the power of the smile and what it can predict about the future success of relationships  Let me know what you think!

By Clara Moskowitz, LiveScience Staff Writer

In one test, the researchers looked at people’s college yearbook photos, and rated their smile intensity from 1 to 10. None of the people who fell within the top 10 percent of smile strength had divorced, while within the bottom 10 percent of smilers, almost one in four had had a marriage that ended, the researchers say. (Scoring was based on the stretch in two muscles: one that pulls up on the mouth, and one that creates wrinkles around the eyes.)

In a second trial, the research team asked people over age 65 to provide photos from their childhood (the average age in the pictures was 10 years old). The researchers scored each person’s smile, and found that only 11 percent of the biggest smilers had been divorced, while 31 percent of the frowners had experienced a broken marriage.

Overall, the results indicate that people who frown in photos are five times more likely to get a divorce than people who smile.

While the connection is striking, the researchers stress that they can’t conclude anything about the cause of the correlation.

"Maybe smiling represents a positive disposition towards life," said study leader Matthew Hertenstein, a psychologist at DePauw University in Indiana. "Or maybe smiling people attract other happier people, and the combination may lead to a greater likelihood of a long-lasting marriage. We don’t really know for sure what’s causing it."

Hertenstein said he has considered other explanations, such as the possibility that people who smile more often tend to attract more friends, and a larger support network makes it easier to keep a marriage healthy. Or it could be that people who smile when a photographer tells them to are more likely to have obedient personalities, which could make marriage easier.

The results of the study fit into a larger pattern of research that has found many personality characteristics can be determined from very thin slices of behavior. Basically, we often reveal ourselves in the most subtle, simple ways.

And smiling in photographs has been shown to be correlated with a number of traits, including agenerally happier disposition.

"I think [our results] go along with a lot of the literature that’s been coming out over the last five to 10 years, which shows that positive emotionality is incredibly important in our lives," Hertenstein told LiveScience. "There are many, many beneficial outcomes to a positive disposition."

The findings are also notable because they found a connection between photos taken when people were young and marriage outcomes that sometimes occurred much later.

"It feeds into this idea that what’s occurring earlier in our lives in terms of our present situation and our mental state can predict things that occur decades later," Hertenstein said. "Showing the continuity in who we are is really important."

The study is detailed in the April 5 issue of the journal Motivation and Emotion

 

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